Fear of Fat

I get more out of this talk every time I watch it. If you haven’t seen it, please enjoy a quiet lovely moment with me:

Today, I am most appreciative of the conversation she wants to have about the “feedback” media/”concerned friends” have for people who are any version of overweight. I appreciate this talk alongside the conversations happening over twitter describing weight/height to add context to our conversations about weight and what it means to be healthy. I appreciate the honest conversations about the flaws with BMI as a measurement for who is “healthy” and who is “not healthy” on that scale, removing important context.

It’s hard to watch communities where girls as young as 12 decide it’s time to start dieting and seem themselves as “ugly” or “deformed” because they don’t fit the “perfect profile and measurements.” There is some absurd idea that all bodies, if starved or fed correctly, will eventually look the same. They don’t and they won’t. I appreciate the context this speaker brings to what it means to be comfortable in your own skin and find a rhythm that makes sense for you in your own body — that whatever other people have to say to you is advice, and ultimately what “advice” you accept is yours and yours alone to decide.

I think often of something a friend told me once:
“Your body is the cheapest gift you have ever received,
and the most expensive gift you’ll ever have to return.”

I love the opportunity she presents to celebrate our own bodies for their strengths, instead of constantly comparing ourselves by our weaknesses. She provided me and so many others with a quiet, happy moment to be grateful for how amazing life and human bodies really are. I love this talk, and I am so grateful to this speaker for her bravery to face a difficult topic head on.

It reminds me of the body image salon we hosted over the summer. I shared it with the group from YouTube before our chat, and people shared the quiet personal moments they had that made them reflect on their bodies differently. I love these quiet moments.

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